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The Problem is.. May 2, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — rammanohar @ 7:53 pm

The Problem is..

It has been long, I tried posting on mine blog. I wouldn’t have been instigated either, had it not been a failure to post a comment on a post on a blog. To mine best luck, the comment section of the blog post is blocked. The reason is blogger personal issue, and fear of getting exposed in front of light.

The blog title is as you see “the problem is”.. its really a problem in the intellectually fresh graduate. Most confused, and trying to be idealist, and pretending to be realistic, rather than practicing the realistic.

Be it Engineering grad or MBA grad. Each one has so solid theory in mind and fresh energy in body that they miss out a fact that “Theory of Constraint” is also something, and it lies out of academic course. Tragedy is, nowhere during Engg or MBA had this theory appeared, but it plays implicit role everywhere. The problem is when we read any theory, constraint has never been considered, and as a result out real life problem solving nature has not been modeled accordingly to consider the “constraint factor”.

In simple language “Constraint” is nothing but a dimension which says you can’t bypass the relationship of one earthly entity with another. Constraint mutely express, if you wish to ignore this relationship and want to move ahead, don’t expect that the world will change in your absence. “Constraint” also says that if you want to make difference for other, take others into confidence, else be happy with the difference you have with others, and enjoy the happiness alone.

There are thousands and thousands of constraint around. For Ex. Everyone is not equal. If you have money, but that may not guarantee you have right to purchase whole world. You may have brilliant ideas, superb knowledge, and you may be exceptionally intelligent, but that doesn’t mean that whoever remain unconvinced by your thinking process don’t deserve to be listened. You may have millions dreams, trillions aspirations, zillions energy and limitless self-confidence and self dependency to convert into reality, but that in no way can/should stop others to multiple your success by becoming part of your story.

“My intellect, my views on life, my ways of life, my level of maturity matter and matter a lot”. Off course it matter a lot to you. But you can’t ignore the constraint of being in humanly world. If you want to live in human jungle, so does have to bear the rule of jungle. Else there is always path open for “Himalaya” and “Kailash Parwat”. I remember one of mine friend’s signature line which has Arbindo statement.

Whoever is too great must lonely live,
Adored he walks in his mighty solitude:
Vain in his labor to create his kin
His only comrade is the strength within.
Sri Aurobindo

To rule and systematize the jungle, Human discovered the concept of “Democracy”. No matter what’s the outcome. No matter even if it is voted by majority of monkeys to select a donkey, it is alright in so called “self proclaimed” civilized society, for the heck of “Democracy”. And to strengthen the so called democracy, we abide by the theory of “Oh! It has been happening for centuries. It must be right!” Or “That great man said it, it must be right.”.

But why be so critical of this “Democratic” value, only because it has belief in majorities? Are everyone in world bestowed with equally knowledge, patience, resource, emotion and love? If not, how can two individual be of equal competent. Suppose a person is born blind, then extending stick to blind person is in no way disrespect of his capabilities. If some child is crying hungrily, then extending food even without permission doesn’t mean infringement into child’s choice of freedom. If some physically challenged fail to stand confidently in front, then caressing and motivating doesn’t means it is insult to their inner confidence.

Then who is going to decide, who need stick, and who need food, and who need caressing and who need motivation. Should it be one person decision or should it be a decision of collection? Should each one be leader of one man army, or should everyone be follower of each other? Should we demolish old beliefs and create new one daily, or should we follow the old beliefs without any eyebrow?

With all these questions at the center, we have challenge of defining the success for life amid thousand of constraint in life.

Success means exceeding the beloved expectations, success means creating a reason for other to be proud of you; success means finding your happiness in others dream; success means you are missed by someone; success means you complete others life; success means get engulfed in dancing surrounding; success means taking other to dance with you; success means not stopping talk with others; success means creating one good moment for others; success means laughing in pain; success means keep going continuously; success means beating the challenge; Success means managing the constraint;

And the problem is … we are trying to find success in some corporate AC room…in some university lecture.. in some well written book.. And getting success spelled on a A4 size paper in golden ink by some other for you. Getting accompanied by a free voucher for eat outs.

To mine surprise… people found the way to comment on initially discussed post through On the second story…